What is codependency? What are the signs that you might be, and how to overcome it?
Codependency is a common relationship pattern that typically impacts people who are recovering from an addiction. One person in the relationship needs the other, and the other person needs to be needed. This relationship pattern is unhealthy for both parties. The most common signs of codependency:
Lack of self-confidence in decision making
Low self-esteem
Difficulty in sustaining relationships
Have a tendency to look for “victims” to help
Fear of anger/ bottling it up until you explode
Hypersensitive to criticism
Need to be in control
Constantly seeking approval and affirmation
Being super responsible or super irresponsible
Confusion between love and pity
How to overcome it:
Set boundaries
Value yourself
Prioritize self care
Practice self compassion
Let others make their own choices
Develop a stronger sense of self
If you want more information on co-dependency, you should read Melody Beattie’s Codependent No More.